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useful and pleasure giving that heart more than in the eye, and it might be ranked among the if it do not tend to produce humanities. The French and beautiful life and noble practice Germans, of even the humblest it will prove of very little avail. classes, are gracious in manner,

While the cultivation of grace is complaisant, cordial and well not to be neglected, it should bred. A great deal of the success never be forgotten that there is of manner consists in tact, and something far higher and nobler it is because

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character. polite. They possess an intuitive Without a solid, sterling basis of quickness and readiness of action, individual goodness, all the grace, have keener insight into elegance and art in the world character, and exhibit greater would fail to save or to elevate a discrimination and address. In people.” matters of social detail aptness

We have quoted copiously and dexterity come to them like from this great writer, feeling nature, and hence well-mannered sure that his words would have men usually receive their best more weight than anything that culture by mixing in the society our feeble pen could frame on of gentle and adroit

this intensely important and inTact is an intuitive art of manner teresting subject. And

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through think I hear a bevy of bright, , difficulty better than either talent fun-loving girls, comely in form or knowledge. Talent is power, and feature, as our innocent girls tact is skill; talent makes a man are, who are not quite sure of respectable, tact makes him the ways of polite society, yet respected. Talent knows what anxious to learn, asking us to to do, tact knows how to do it. give some good rules for Talent is wealth, tact is ready

INTRODUCTION, money. While grace of manner, for on approaching the charmed politeness of behavior, elegance circle of what is termed society of demeanor, and all the arts every timid young girl senses that contribute to make life degree of self-distrust very painful pleasant and beautiful,

and embarassing. She is anxious worthy of cultivation, it must not to do "just right," and do it all be at the expense of more solid with

easy grace like and enduring qualities of honesy, accustomed to it. That is a right sincerity and truthfulness. The feeling, and with a few rules fountain of beauty must be in the firmly fixed in her memory, by

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of her sex, and that the gentleappear very awkward in

any man is honored in the introducplace. It is my humble opinion tion. This rule is to be obcerved that in all mixed companies our even when the social rank of the girls cannot be too careful of the gentleman is higher than that of liberty they give others in intro- the lady. Second. Where the ducing them to new acquaintance.

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always There are many people whom we present the inferior to are obliged to meet whom we do perior, the younger to the older. not care to know, and it is, or Third. Never present a gentleman should be, in the power of every to a lady without first asking her girl to protect herself from unde- permission to do so. In introsirable acquaintances. But in ducing a gentleman to a lady, companies where all are known address her first as, for instance, to be of good character, among

"Miss Wilson, permit me to those known as good Latter-day make you acquainted with Mr. Saints, should not be too Davis;" or "Miss Leslie, allow reserved and require a formal me to present Mr. Wilkins;" also introduction before exchanging if one lady is married, the other the common civilities of the single, present the single lady to occasion; sitting in silent reserve, the matron- "Miss Thompson, maintaining a "I am better than

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to Mrs. thou” expression and attitude, McKee." It is in good taste to but wear a pleasant expression,

mention the name of the town and appear willing to enter into city to which either may belong, conversation with those present. as, "Mr. Stephenson, of Boston," To introducing persons

who “Mr. Warren, of Chicago." In are mutually unknown is to un- introducing a foreigner, it is dertake a serious responsibility, proper to present him as, "Mr. and to certify to each the respect- Howard, from England," "Mr. ability of the other. Never

Dupont, from France." In introundertake this

responsibility ducing one of your own countrywithout in the first place asking men, recently returned from yourself whether the persons are distant part of the world, make likely to be agreeable to each him known "Mr. Edwards other; nor, in the second place, just from Germany;" or if one without ascertaining whether it the other is going on mission will be acceptable to both parties or visit to any country, it is well to become acquainted. First.

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to the. Sandwich Islands;" stiff and formal. Acknowledge speak of your friend's going to the honor with a gracious smile; or returning from college, the also ladies never shake hands study of any art science. with a gentleman unless under These slight specifications are circumstances of great intimacy; easily made, and they afford at the young gentleman lady once an opening for conversation extends the hand to

persons between two strangers, as it will whose

age or position entitles be perfectly natural and proper

them to great respect. Old to ask the "late arrival" some- friends of a parent should be met thing about the country he has with marked respect and cordialvisited, or his expected journey. ity. If an elder person extends In presenting a clergyman, put the hand, according to an oldthe word Reverend before his fashioned custom,

never for name, or Bishop, or, in

instant decline it. Never introChurch, Apostle, President. In- duce morning visitors who happen troduce the head of a college to encounter each other in your department Professor. In parlor, unless they are persons introducing members of your own whom you have already obtained family, always mention audibly permission to make known to each the name, it is not sufficient to other. Visitors thus casually say "my father," or "my mother,” | meeting in the house of a friend "my son, 2," or "my daughter," should converse with

and "my brother" or "my sister," or freedom as if they “my daughter-in-law." There quainted; that they both may be more than one surname friends of the hostess is sufficient in the same family. The eldest guarantee of their respectability; daughter is usually introduced to be stiff and silent on such an by her surname only, as “Miss occasion would show much ignorBradford," her younger sister as ance and ill-breeding. Persons "Miss Myra Bradford." In intro- who have met at the house of a ducing a Governor, designate the mutual friend without being made state he governs.

If you do not acquainted, should not bow if they distinctly understand the person's afterward meet elsewhere, a bow name to whom you are introduced, implies acquaintance, and persons it is proper to say, “I beg pardon, who have not had an introduction I did not catch the name," and to each other are not acquainted. wait till it is repeated. To not If you are walking with one friend be able to recall the name of and meet with or are joined by person whom you have just met another, do not commit the too is very awkward and embarrass- frequent

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your house during a morning call. Friends may introduce friends at the house of a mutual acquaintance, but, as a rule, it is better to be introduced by the mistress of the house; such an introduction carries more authority with it. There are some exceptions to the etiquette of introductions at a ball or evening party where there is dancing. The mistress of the house may introduce any gentleman to any lady without first asking the lady's permission, but she should first ascertain if the lady is willing to dance, and this out of consideration for the gentleman who may otherwise be refused. No

likes

to be refused the hand of lady, though it be only for a quadrille.

"Introductions at evening parties are

now almost wholly dispensed with. People who meet at a friend's house are ostensibly upon an equality, and pay

bad compliment to the host by appearing suspicious and formal.

Some old-fashioned hosts

yet preserve in introducing each new comer to the assembled guests. It is a custom that cannot be too soon abolished, and one that places the last unfortunate visitor in a singularly awkward position. All that she can do is to make a semi-circular courtesy, like a concert singer before an audience, and bear the general gaze with as much composure as possible.

“An introduction given at a ball for the mere purpose of conducting a lady through a dance does not give the gentleman any right to bow to the lady on a future occasion. If he commits this error she may remember that she is not bound to see or return his salutation." Lelia Westwood.

Now, girls, if you have any better rules than these we would be pleased to see them appear in our JOURNAL, for we are seeking after the most correct and beautiful laws by which to govern all of our work.

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SAYINGS OF THE PROPHET JOSEPH SMITH.

JANUARY 26, 1893. Dear Niece Susa Y. Gates:

Since writing you last I have found two more very small items of the Prophet's sayings, small in volume, but to me they are each big in truth and significance; and more, I heard the Prophet speak them.

I will give them now, and you wait as long or short

as you

please before they go in print. I may find more before long. I will remember the JOURNAL whenever I find anything of interest. Respectfully yours,

0. B. Huntington. I heard the Prophet reply to a question that was asked him by some one of a small company of brethren who had gathered into his office, and, as usual, the class

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of men generally around him were receiving a reward for all our unceasingly calling for informa- actions was the principal topic. tion from his boundless treasure- He was explaining that every field, and his answer

was this:

good act would bring to the per“Yes, there will; for there former a reward of good, and bad never any rites, ordinances actions would entail upon us evil laws in the Priesthood of any results; or in other words, "Such gospel dispensation upon this measure as you mete out to others earth but what will have to be shall be measured to you again.” finished and perfected in this The question was this:

"If a the last dispensation of time, person do a good act, a kindness, the dispensation of all dispen- or perhaps a charitable act, to a sations."

very bad, wicked man, will that This answer

was given to person receive a reward of good question upon sacrifices and burnt for that act as if he had done it to offerings, such as Israel in the a good man?" days of Moses performed, upon Joseph said : “Yes, he will which the conversation of the receive a reward for that good act company had been, and this to a wicked man, as surely as if he

to the question, did it to a good man, but not as “Will there ever

quick." offering of sheep and heifers and These are the words of Joseph bullocks upon altars, as used to Smith, for they were so strange be required of Israel?"

to me that I can never forget my Another question was asked the thought: "It's strange that the Prophet Joseph Smith on another reward should come quicker if occasion, when the subject of done to a good man."

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EDITOR'S DEPARTMENT.

WHY WAS THE MANIFESTO ISSUED? the most important things have

I am about to take a position not yet been uttered by anyone. in answering this important ques- Granted that this nation bears the tion which I feel sure will incite heavy burden of responsibility in ninety-nine out of every hundred regard to this matter, which we women who will read this with a all readily acknowledge, yet there feeling of strong denial.

remains the fact that those who hundred sisters, one and all, if I live in Zion and who are usually am right in my position, no called Saints will surely have to amount of opposition on your part render an account for the amount will make me wrong. There has of responsibility which is their been a good deal said about this

We all know there are two question, and yet I think some of sides to every question, and rarely

But my

own.

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