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remembering always that “cleanliIn our former chapters on this ness is next to godliness." First, subject we dwelt upon the neces- we ask, “Ere you left your room sity of studying the laws regulat this morning did you think to ing good society, the importance pray?" Next, did you give careful of good manners in the home attention to the perfect cleanlicircle and in all our associations ness of your person, the brushing with

fellow beings. We of your hair and teeth and the will take for granted that every cleaning of your nails? young lady understands the duty ! separate your bedclothes, leaving of obedience to parental authority, each article free to the sweet, and in the home is striving to pure air that you let in to your become polite and refined in con- bedroom through wide open doors versation and manners. It is windows? If so, when you exceedingly impolite to keep the joined the family at prayer time, family waiting at breakfast time, did you greet each member with or to appear in an untidy morning a pleasant smile and cheerful dress, with hair in disorder, shoes good morning, or with a careless unbuttoned, the breastpin or bow or indifferent nod and with averted of ribbon absent from the throat eyes? Was your greeting respectbecause only "our own folks” are ful, cheerful


affectionate? present. Practice beginning the Then you are on the highway to day right by rising early enough success for the day. to attend to all the minor details After breakfast sit quietly a few of the personal appearance, moments and look the duties or







pleasures of the day squarely in had some experience in the comthe face; think over what should pany of the gentler sex, said, "It be done and how best to do it, is better io dwell in the corner of and guard against forming the house top, than in a wide habit of indecision and fussiness, house with a brawling woman." thus avoiding many causes

of Arguments and idle discourses annoyance to yourself and friends; are uncalled for, as they lead to no and don't, oh don't let it be your good. The better


is besetting sin to feel irritated and adroitly change the subject and "put out” at trifles. “He who commence one that will lead to at small things takes offense, good feeling In conversation, shows great pride and little

but the ill-bred boast of sense."

Don't frown, pout, and their family connections, wealth, look sullen, or sulk over little or superior intelligence. You will vexations. If you do this in the always leave it to others spring time of life you will grow praise the beauty, gifts or accominto a disagreeable, peevish, crusty plishments of your own family, old woman as the real trials press and where this is done always upon you. When you go out express pleasure with their good leave all your real or fancied opinions. In correcting mistakes troubles at home, and

try to

always say, "I ask your pardon, speak and look kindly wherever but I think you are mistaken;" you go, for the world "Wants full and unless the mistake is of measure of all our pleasure, but importance say nothing at all. it does not want our

But The person who will scold, abuse, if others tell us of their troubles or ridicule others in company is

no matter how much we may not worthy the name of lady or dislike to hear it-sympathize gentleman. Carefully avoid setwith them if possible, and add a ting yourself up as a standard. cheerful, hopeful word; it will The too frequent use of "Now I give them strength to endure. do or think so and so," implies Charity and etiquette command that others are wrong and you a lady never to insult another in are right. People who do this her own house, matter how

very uncomfortable much she may dislike the visitor. panions. Never answer quesSelf-command is a Christian vir- tion impatiently, no matter how tue that must be cbserved no inconvenient unpleasant it matter how aggravating the may be to you. However smart situation. In speaking be moder

or witty you may be considered, ate;

let your voice run never exercise your wit in rallyaway with you. Nothing grates ing or bantering your friends. If more upon the sensitive ear than you do so their friendship will loud, boisterous, high-pitched soon be worn out or converted talk. Solomon, who,

Solomon, who, no doubt, into positive enmity. A jest that










carries a sting with it can

advanced in general conversation, give a pleasant sensation to the be silent. If pressed for your object. The bite of a mosquito opinion give it with modesty. is a very little thing, but it

Never defend your own views too leaves pain and inflammation warmly. When you find others behind it, and the more it is remain unconvinced

drop the rubbed the longer it rankles in subject and lead to

other the blood.

topic. Never scandalize or ridiNo one

likes to have their cule an absent person; if others foibles or mishaps turned into do so always politely defend ridicule, before others especially, them, if possible, or try to counand few can cordially join in a teract any prejudice that may be laugh that is raised against them- engendered in the minds of the selves, though we should avoid company by holding up to view being too sensitive on this point as many good traits of character and be generous enough to allow

as you can think of. our friends a little merriment at It may be well to caution our our expense without the least sign young friends against certain bad of ill-nature. Never speak of practices, easily contracted but absent persons by only their sometimes difficult to relinquish, Christian or surnames, but always such as biting your nails, slipping as Mr. or Mrs. If members of a ring up and down the finger, our Church, brother or sister. sitting cross-kneed and jogging Above all, never name anybody your foot, drumming on the table by the initial of their name. with your fingers or knuckles, or, Married people sometimes worse still, tinkling on a piano guilty of this offense. No lady with one finger only, humming a should permit a gentleman who tune in the presence of strangers, is not a near relative or very old holding the arm of a friend all friend of her family to defray the the time she sits beside you, kisscost of her entrance fee to any ing and fondling her before comtheater or exhibition, or to pay pany or sitting too closely. The for her refreshments or

fact that we truly love our vehicle fare when she happened panions should never be to be under his protection.

cealed, for it is the expression of person of greater age or higher love that sweetens life; but let it rank than yourself desires you to be told in the expression of the first step into a carriage eye and the pleasure lighting up through a door it is more polite the countenance by gentle, to bow and obey than to decline. thoughtful and considerate attenCompliance with and deference to tions, rather than by caresses. the wishes of others is the finest Slapping a gentleman with your breeding When

you cannot handkerchief or tapping him with agree

with the propositions your fan is unlady-like, and never






If a








allow him to take a ring off your you do not want it yourself, or finger to look at it or permit him that

should throw it


if to unclasp your bracelet, or, still

it were not accepted, etc., etc. worse, to inspect your brooch. Such apologies would be insults When these articles

to be if true, and mean nothing if false. shown to another person always Unmarried ladies may not accept take them off for the purpose. presents from gentlemen who are In company abstain from the neither related nor engaged to "fidgets," and


them. Presents made by a uneasy, and no matter how the

ried lady to a gentleman can only time may lag, maintain an air of be offered in the joint names of interest and try to appreciate the husband and herself. Married efforts made by your friends for ladies may occasionally accept your entertainment, and

presents from gentlemen who visit allow them to feel that their | frequently at their houses, and efforts

vain. Etiquette who desire to show their sense sometimes requires us to assume of the hospitality wbich they a pleasure we do not feel, to receive there. A gift should avoid wounding the sensibilities be precious for something better of others. Anyone who will sit than its price. It may have been like a marble statue, representing brought by the giver from some “sullen silence" deserves to be far or famous place; it may be "left out" when invitations are unique in its workmanship; it issued for social gatherings. All may be valuable only for its this requires thought, practice, association with some great pertact, and the exercise of many son or strange event. Autographic Christian graces; but the pleasure papers, foreign curiosities and we give and gain is worth every the like are elegant gifts. An effort.

offer his book or painter a sketch with grace and

propriety. Offerings of flowers If you present a book


game are unexceptionable, friend, do not write his or her and may be made even to those name in it unless requested. You whose position is superior to that have no right to presume that it of the giver. Never refuse will be rendered any the more present, unless under exceptional valuable for that addition, and circunstances, however humble you ought not to conclude before the giver and however poor the hand that your

gift will

be gift. You should appreciate the accepted.

good will and intention, and Never undervalue the gift accept it with kindness and which you are yourself offering. thanks. Never say, “I fear I rob You have no business to offer it

you," or, “I am really ashamed to if it is valueless, neither say that take it." Such deprecatory phrases

author may









a nor

imply that you think the giver tation of a return,

be too cannot spare or afford it.

anxious to make a return after Acknowledge the receipt of a acceptiug one, lest your friend present without delay. There is will feel that he has placed you an art and propriety in the giv- under a sense of obligation to ing of presents which it requires him. a natural delicacy of disposition Sometimes a gift of thyself is rightly to apprehend. Give not the most precious gift of all to too rich too poor a gift. offer thy friend.

An hour of your Give not to one much wealthier time, a cheering word, a than yourself, and beware how friendly, reassuring hand clasp, you give to the poor lest their a song or pleasant smile is indeed pride be offended.

You must a precious offering. never make a gift with any expec





THE YEAR 1893.

Europe has

its painful local In all the years of our history problems as well as the terrible as a people there has never been international prospects ahead of a year so full of presage for a a that continent Canada is full of stupendous future as this dawning unrest, and Mexico is never very year of 1893.

Statesmen, philo-firm in its peace and tranquility. sophers and thinkers of


Our own nation has entered upon kind and type have given the a state of national affairs or hisgravest consideration to the many tory which has never prevailed signs of big events which loom since the opening of the Civil War. upon the

horizon. The What the attempted changes European war which has been so in policy may produce in the way long held at bay, by Providence, of startling effects can only be we know, but, as infidels assert, dimly felt. Capital and labor are by the strategy of wily diplomats, standing with hands at each seems to hang with a peculiar | other's throats, and no force upon this year's crest. tell which will prevail. Not least This continent is full of untoward of the fearful outlooks for the situations, and it will be next to future is the dreaded cholera a miracle if the whole South scourge, which is known by the American continent is not ablaze most conservative Americans to with war and excitement before be a very horrible probability. the close of the spring. England All nature seems to be in that is full of a trembling fear of inner state of intense silence which disasters, and each nation of awaits the peal of

a thunderous



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